This woman tweeted a screenshot of a message she received on a dating app roasting her for the duration that she has been on dating apps. The match recognized her from years (and matches) past and didn’t hesitate to call her out.
“I’ve seen you on dating apps for years now. You crazy or something?” the message challenged. While it’s true that prolonged or repeated presence is an indicator of a lack of success, there can be a wild variety of reasons for that.
Plus, two can play at that game. As some responders have pointed out, any commentary on her continued presence on dating apps is the pot calling the kettle black. For the match to have seen her on dating apps “for years,” he would have to have been on those apps, also unsuccessfully finding a partner.
But, as with hookups and dating, there seems to be a double standard regarding how we perceive men and women on dating apps. Even as some responses unironically point out, we see a single man as “playing the field” but a single woman as something along the lines of desperate. We refer to unpartnered men as “bachelors.” A woman, however, is a “maiden” (which has strong connotations with and literary usages of simply being too young or too old for a strapping lad to pursue) or, worse yet, a “spinster,” which has incredibly derogatory connotations.
Yes, I’m aware the term “bachelorette” exists, but it was seldom used before 1980 and has only really been used in the last 20 years (thanks to a certain TV show), which further reinforces the point.
Furthermore, a promiscuous lad has traditionally been hailed and celebrated as a “player,” a champion of women but a promiscuous woman is a slut, skank, or whore; each uttered with a sneer of disdain.
All I’m saying is that this line of thinking has probably led this particular lad to think that he has the moral high ground and has made him feel comfortable calling a stranger “crazy” when he is in the exact same situation.
By his logic, he must be crazy too.